Hello, everyone. I’ m Serena. Welcome to my log 6!
In this week, what I have read in Charlie and Great Glass Elevator is that Mr. Wonka chose to defeat the monster in order to save government officials from being attacked by the monsters on the spacecraft. In my opinion, Mr. Wonka does not need to consume himself too much with defeating monsters. I mean if it is simply about saving people’ life, he can just take everyone to escape the spacecraft, staying away from monsters to keep everyone’s life. However, he didn't escape, he chose to face the dangerous monster, trying to defeat it which is everyone's nightmare.
This plot of the story led me to come up with a question: When encountering difficulties, will you choose to avoid or face it?
Just at the moment, it occurred to me that
my friend came to seek help from me recently because he didn't know how to
reject others, so he chose to escape the problem instead of facing how he could
do to reject the invitation of others.
Specifically, due to the recommendation of my friend’s fitness coach, he met an insurance manager. After an interview, the insurance manager said to my friend "I think you have great potential, and you are very suitable for this business. For reminder: You will be very busy afterwards, because I will spend a lot of time training you." Originally, it should be a pleasure for my friend. However, after three meetings between him and the manager, I gradually found that he often looked glum. He told me he spent a lot of time training by this manager, and it has already affected his university studies. Lastly, he didn't know how to refuse the manager's invitation afterwards.
My advice to him is that “you should face this problem instead of avoiding. Evasion will only make you unable to graduate because you didn’t have enough time to take care of your university studies. What’s worst, what if you find the insurance industry is not what you want to do in the future. Think about it, the time you spent on all these training plus the inability to graduate, is it really the result you want to see?”
Therefore, I advised him to face the problem of being unable to reject others. First of all, you must first understand what kind of life and work you want to pursue in the future. Secondly, how to implement it, such as taking relevant courses in the university, or studying with friends in relevant fields. Last but not least, have good time management.
After hearing this, my friend realized that he had to face his own problems, and he also realized that he had to complete his university education first. In the end, he successfully declined the invitation of the insurance manager and focused on his studies.
In this incident, I observed the fear
behind my friend’s escape is from the confusion about the future. I also
realized that sometimes the problems can not be evaded because it will only
make the result worse. Moreover, through the events of my friends, I also
remind myself just like how I told my friend, I should pick up my courage to face problems, overcoming
difficulties.
Hello, Serena! First of all, thank you for sharing your personal story with us. I did agree with your advice of facing the problem instead of evasion. However, you mentioned that “what if you find the insurance industry is not what you want to do in the future.” I want to share my personal perspective with you below, not arguing your viewpoint. XD
ReplyDeleteIn my opinion, only if we try something do we know we are suitable or unsuitable for that work. Thus, if I were him, I would probably regret “not accepting it” more than regret to accept it. Even if I might make an all-out effort and sacrifice something at that moment, I still know that I definitely acquired some skills or experiences. Although the result may not be what I expect, the truth that I have tried matters! Oh, it occurred to me that once my respectful teacher had said to me “if you want to spend an extra year to find your interests or fulfill your dream, then what does it matter if you postpone graduation by one year!” I always keep it in mind because it inspired me a lot. I used to be a person who regarded delayed graduation as a failure. But now, I am the one who pursue what I want without fixating excessively on finishing my studies.
Maybe there is a misunderstanding. XD Actually in the cases of people really don't know what to do in the future without trying, I would say "Yes, try it regardless of postponing graduation!" But in my friend's case, he actually don't want to be in insurance industry. The real problem is "he don't know how to reject others." The above reason is what I tried to convince him to take action to reject what he actually didn't want.
DeleteAnyway,Judy, thank you so much for sharing such good insight!
I also support your view in some cases!<3
“if you want to spend an extra year to find your interests or fulfill your dream, then what does it matter if you postpone graduation by one year!”
ReplyDeleteWho is that wise teacher? I gave my children the same advice! XD!