In this chapter, the author gives several suggestions for overthinkers to their own mental conditions and further know themselves better. There are setting your own ground rules, making writing as a process of outcome, balancing your energy budget, experimenting the temperature, and taking your feeling into consideration when making a difficult decision.
Among the above, I consider myself to be related to “experimenting the temperature” the most. I always open the window and let the cold wind blowing through my face when I am disturbed by one thing for a long time or when I fall into the circle of overthinking. It can not only make me stay awake but also help me jump out of the inconclusive thinking. In addition, taking a shower with cold water can also help me to clarify things and even restart my thinking in another way, which sometimes makes everything become clear at once. Besides, not only cold temperature can help, but also warm temperature can lead me to a better condition. Especially, when my mind is messy and disordered, I will take a hot bath to relay myself. For example, there are always lots of homework and presentations during the mid-term exam. Overwhelmed by the pressure, I cannot sleep well or even need to burn the midnight oil which sometimes makes me stressed out, so I will take a hot bath to calm myself down. As a result, I think experimenting the temperature is useful for me.
Another suggestion, “balancing your energy budget”, also touches me a lot. Since I have much homework to do every week and I want to do my best accomplishing them, staying up late and borrowing energy from tomorrow become my daily life. Although there aren’t horrible results happening because I am still young, I can feel the cost, like I will feel exhausted the next day and have trouble concentrating in class. In the book, the author suggests that we should balance our energy carefully even if it means to quit some opportunities. It is the process of learning how to balance our schedule and not to put excessive pressure on ourselves, so we won’t overspend our energy budget to the degree that our bodies cannot afford.
As classmates, I want to recommend some of you who also have the same problem that “making writing as a process of outcome” may benefit you in several aspects. As the book mentions, you can try to write down your feeling when waking up, as a release of feeling. When you can use words, phrases or sentences to describe your feeling, there must be a certain degree of understanding and releasing in your mind. But don’t keep the notes when your notebook is finished since you should throw them away as throwing your disturbing emotion away. In addition, writing down your feeling is a suitable opportunity for you to train your language expression in English, Chinese, or any language that you want to learn. As a Foreign Languages major student, I think it is just a great opportunity for us to practice the usage of language.
Reading to this chapter, I want to strongly recommend some of you who struggle from these problems, such as overthinking or people-pleasing, to read this book. I know that there is no absolutely correct or useful way to resolve and fix the problem and sometimes the effectiveness varies from person to person, but this book can be the step for you to know yourself better, gain some advices that is workable on other overthinkers, and further know what may works on you!
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