Hello, I am Jan! The first book I chose to read is “The courage to be disliked” by the authors Ichiro Kishimi and Fumiyake Koga, and I have read the first chapter ”Deny trauma” from page 1 to 39.
This book is specially written in the style of dialogue between a philosopher and a youth who lacks self- confidence and keeps envy on others to illustrate the idea of freeing ourselves and changing our lives. The youth consider the argument of the philosopher as nothing more than fantasy, so he came to debate about some points that this philosopher stands for, such as “World is simple '' and “People can change '', and the philosopher responded patiently. Through their conversation, the author also elicited some information about Greek philosophy and Adlerian psychology, which is the philosopher’s points based on.
I am so impressed by its subtitles that I really look forward to knowing the answer of the question which most people are chasing for - how to achieve happiness. However, my curiosity turns into disagreement or even anger after finishing the first chapter, and I feel tons of feelings are all messed up in my mind while reading the dialogue. Moreover, It is like I were the youth who was debating with the philosopher because I almost had the same perspective and experience with him.
When I started reading this book, firstly I felt not only curious but also surprised to be in touch with the new point of Greek philosophy and Adlerian psychology, and I like one sentence the philosopher said ”The world you see is different from the one I see. ” We are born as an independent and unique individual, and the interpretation of this sentence I think is that everyone can not force others to ponder things in his or her way. Beginning with the objective and subjective view toward this world, I am interested in the philosopher’s word. In my opinion, when there are a lot of people who think one thing in the same way, that will be an objective idea, and his theory broke this thought. The way you see the world is all from a subjective perspective, no one can be objective. Then the philosopher elaborated briefly the three giants, the contrary perspectives of teleology and aetiology. However, the theory that philosophers insist makes me feel unacceptable in some aspects. According to him, the past of me is just pasted, and the past can’t be changed, so it has no relationship to the present me how to live. The importance is the future goal. In the beginning, I couldn't understand this at all. I believe that the past experience builds the present me, and the mistake, the hurt, stops me from repeating the same action again, but the explanation turns my thought of Adlerian psychology and gets confused of what is reasonable for me. What's more, it reminds me of the illness named School Phobia. It is both based on the result to trace back to the possible reason, and it is out of the way we consider things. When it comes to the example of going to the doctor, I can simply understand what he meant, that is quite easy! But I contradict this theory in some situations. Next, there is another case about emotions between their debate. Do you control emotions or the emotions control you? The youth think sometimes emotions would drive people to do the things they don't usually do and the philosopher proposed the theory that people take emotion as a tool. Two examples in these two hypotheses both got logical explanations, and that really drives me crazy. Indulging in this book, I feel like I were the youth, since I encountered the difficulties he faced, wondered the answer of life questions as he did, and also had the experience like he had. Though the plot confused me at the first chapter, it did attract me to keep conducting the conversation.
Last but not the least, I think I have some reflection and questions that I can’t sort it out, but I generally expected to see for all the left chapters, to see if there are some practical ways to help us to alternate our viewpoint and do action, as the topic writes, it is the courage that matters!
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